possess a discreet charm and an attitude that is both strict and selective. One could mistakenly assume that they are frosty and aloof, when in actual fact they are quite reserved and anxious. If they seem distant at first it is probably because they can be somewhat paralysed by their shyness, stifled by modesty and uncertainty. However, once they feel reassured with regards to the genuineness of their company they reveal themselves to be very pleasant, sociable, thoughtful and sincere. Ilari
lack self-confidence and may compensate for this with a self-satisfied, assertive frank and direct manner, and are even capable of rigidity and authoritarianism at times. Determined, enterprising and ambitious, they have a huge capacity for work and tend to count success in terms of time. They are capable of great energy and effort in the pursuit of an objective that is close to their heart, and can reveal themselves to be quite materialistic and self-absorbed. Of logical and rational mind, they have a talent for organisation, management and administration. The combination of opposing influences (the 3 and the 4) can sometimes lead to them being torn between extroversion and introversion, generosity and greed. The former tendency will be amplified if they were born in March or on a 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th, or if their Life Path
Number is 3, whilst the latter will be more pronounced if the 4 prevails (if they were born on a 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st, in April, or if they have a Life Path
Number of 4). Both of these comportments could easily coexist as part of their personality, but such a situation would also entail quite contradictory attitudes. Their behaviour could be even more disconcerting if they were born on the 3rd of April or the 4th of March... As children, their sociability is to be encouraged and they must learn to share with others. They require the support of an affectionate family environment to avoid growing up to be overly modest or insecure. Ilari
are generally very possessive, enjoy collecting things and don't like to lend their belongings.